I’ve always been intrigued by the idea of dating coaches. I’m actually friends with a few of them (it’s a small dating and love world, y’all) – and I love learning how they coach people to find love. Since I consider myself to be a pretty active, able and positive single gal, I never thought I needed the professional services of someone to teach me how to date…but I was curious about their expert advice on playing (and eventually getting off) the field.
So I decided to turn the tables and have a few love & relationship coaches interview ME instead of the other way around. These folks asked really tough questions about who I am, what I want and what type of guys I date and gave me tough love advice that maybe – just maybe – will land me a boyfriend.
Here’s what six dating coaches think I’m doing wrong in love:
1. I’m being too aggressive.
According to Robin Gorman Newman, founder of LoveCoach.com and author of How to Meet a Mensch in New York and How to Marry a Mensch, I need to be a little softer with guys and let them come to me. In fact, almost every expert told me that I should give guys more of a chance to pursue me instead of the other way around. “The guy should always be the one to take the lead,” Newman said. “I wouldn’t advise for you to initiate because it makes the relationship too familiar too fast.” Newman also mentioned that it’s fine for ladies to go up to guys at bars or in social events, but to never take their number or text them first.
My reaction: I really, really hate dating rules , which is why I don’t have a problem reaching out post-date if I feel good about it. That being said, every single time I’ve made the first move, I’ve never ended up dating the dude. Maybe it’s time to hold the iPhone trigger?
2. My career is a huge turn-off.
Look, I know writing about love and my dating life on my blog isn’t exactly a welcome fact to reveal to guys on dates.
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