Once upon a time, there was a man named Larry who quickly became one of my most loyal followers.
For those of you who have commented on posts, you’re probably familiar with him. I’ve never personally met Larry but on almost every single blog I’ve published, he’s made sure to leave his opinion. And often times, he asks for advice on his dating life. You see, after going through a divorce at 59, Larry has been experiencing the world of flying solo all over again — and along the way, he’s sadly found a lot of heartache.
But what I love about him is that he keeps going, he never loses hope and he always gets back out there. He seems to have such a golden heart — still curious, ever-so thoughtful, simply wanting to find the right girl who will treasure him for him. In many ways, he’s empowering himself with self-love and figuring out the world of women in the process. Best of all, he shares his candid stories and words of wisdom with everyone who happens to stumble across a post.
So, Larry — I dedicate a pre-Valentine’s Day blog to you. And though you’ve given me some incredible (and funny) advice over the last two-and-a-half years, I hope you’ll take some of my loving words, too. You’ve always made sure to tell me and the women reading these pages that we’re worth it and that we deserve better. That we shouldn’t settle for men who are cold-hearted or don’t know how to treat us with the respect and the beauty that we truly are. My challenge (and hope) for you is that you take your own wisdom to heart. You deserve better, too. You should have a woman who is madly, crazily, stupidly in love with you – regardless if you iron your shirts or if you’re too forward or not 100 percent perfect (none of us are!). She won’t talk to you about men she’s dated or tell you about any other guys. You won’t have to wait for emails or messages or even wonder about her intentions. Instead, she’ll just want to know all about you. She’ll want to read your medical journals. She’ll want to hear about your teaching career. She’ll be proud to be your side. And just like there are some great men out there — there are some great women out there, too. Don’t ever give up faith or give up on yourself — because there is a lady — maybe in sunny LA or across the world — who can’t wait to meet someone just like you. I know so. Happy Valentine’s Day Larry, hope you love yourself as much as I love reading your comments! – Linds
Some of my favorite Larry quotes include…
“Be annoyingly happy.”
“Yes, be ever the optimist, beautiful young thing.”
“Kiss you on the forehead. What’s he doing, claiming you are his niece ? When in love, he tips your head up and plants one on the lips, holds for a few seconds at least , hopes MANY people notice.”
“Sounds like you’ve been to the Baskin-Robbins of dating way too often. But having a good time.”
“Have a life, meet people, find people you enjoy activities with. Pretend you are 10, but can drive and have money, no curfew. Find who you like to have fun with, who makes you laugh, who’s there to help you.”
“Every man and woman should want to be able to say at the end of their life, at the end of any week or day, that they were a good man, a good woman, a good person. You did your best, you made someone smile, you helped someone out. You held nothing back when it was needed.”
“EVERY woman needs to hold out for her Mr. Right. No more abusive relationships. Don’t tolerate mistreatment. It would change the entire world. Imagine if all the jerks died of old age, and no little boys to teach how to abuse women, only to model how to love and adore the special woman in their life. Want it for yourself. Want it for all your friends. We are out here, wanting a woman like you. Be where we might encounter you. Imagine.”
“You deserve to be special for someone, and will, and they will show it to you, always. It is so worth it.”
“Put some trust with Dr. Heart. There may be only matted AstroTurf painted a putrid shade of green on the other side of the fence. (You know, the grass is always greener, etc).”
“My only weakness is ironing. So far, early out of the drier is good enough. If some woman is upset about a slightly wrinkled shirt and won’t get to know me, she deserves a jerk in a pressed shirt who may mistreat her. I wouldn’t. Given all the other stuff I do for myself, and I hate ironing, at least I’m not obsessive about that.”
“Boring is uninteresting. Nice is interesting and pleasant. Fun. Nice is making a person feel wanted, that you’re interested in them. Caring.”
“You should never need to stay and wonder if the guy will change for you. Most guys like the way they are. Let evolution take jerks out of the dating pool.”
“Lindsay for Supreme Court Justice.”
“Sounds like you may love New York, but the men certainly leave a lot to be desired in the way of chivalry, personality and I’m not sure what else. But a great place to write a dating blog.”
“You’re a cool chick, Linds. Determined is the word you want. You refuse to cow to anyone or anything. No such thing as “most beautiful”; peel back the skin on the face, and its all just muscle and bone and ligaments. What you have then is heart and mind. Everyone is entitled to encouragement, and F*** those to try to discourage you. Best body ? You take care of it, bless those you share it with.”
“Put a small umbrella in your purse!”
“How does your man play with little kids ? Can he ? Does he think baby poop stinks, or doesn’t even notice ?”
“Even if Mr. P does not pan out, just be the wonderful you, and don’t worry. Be open to friendship and love, be a touch cautious, but never cynical, always optimistic. Seek a person for whom happiness is a given, that they have and they share. And be the same way.”
“Focus, learn, be better than ever. No moping.”
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Aww! So happy you’ve connected. His words are touching.
Larry seems awesome! I love these quotes from him. It’s so great he’s such a loyal reader. Thanks Larry, from all of us ladies out here. :)
Awwww. You like me. You really like me. (Appropriate, even if Sally Field said it at the Academy Awards first, many years ago.)
The hardest part, is I forgot I never really “dated”. I met the three women of my long term relationships at work, chatting first around and with other people in a lunch room. Some weeks or months later, a less than subtle wink let me know the woman I had been talking to the most wanted to take it another level.
That does not work well in a large work place. I guess become a regular at a time and place of some kind. And I don’t drink. Dance ? Too loud. I could go to a gym, since I work out often. Volleyball, no one near my age. Bookstores are disappearing, if not gone. Find a lecture series, go often. I need to indulge that.
this is so sweet! Larry, You’ll find love again– because what you seek is seeking you!
Linds: I don’t write on every one of your blogs. Do I ?
A couple very sweet comments from THE woman at work. Dear Lord she has such a smile, transforms her from merely attractive to stunning. So you know why I enjoy talking to her, getting her to laugh or smile about something. Anyway. One, she said being diplomatic, she does not comment on my flaws. So I asked her to, since I need to work on them. She said she doesn’t really know any ! Another time, she said all men disappoint once she gets to know them outside of work or however she met them, so she does not want me to have that opportunity to disappoint her ! She wants to always be able to like me. True or not, that’s really nice. We did meet for dinner a couple weeks ago, and that was nice.
We had a funny discussion about makeup, since she once wore some years ago that was very garish, and I did not mention it until then. Whereas what she had that day was understated and very attractive. Plus she dressed very nice for work that day, and I had not seen her look that nice in years.
I hope you had a great Valentine’s Day. (You can see me in WebMD magazine, September issue, page 73, online)