When I can’t fall asleep or post-savasana in yoga class when my mind is supposed to be clear, I start to wrestle with negative thoughts. Most of the time I can ward them off, but there’s one that plagues me more than any other (possibly because it’s a big fear of mine):
Why the hell am I still single?
I could list all of the things that are great about me and what I could bring to a relationship, but while those things are true, it’s also true that I’m pretty damn picky. And that I like the little life and routine I’ve built for myself. And that I keep dating in the same way (online, at the bars) and expecting different results. And well, I don’t date as much as I know I should be (isn’t once a week enough?!).
And possibly the biggest one of all – I refuse to waste time in a just-for-now relationship. I’d much rather be single, have freedom and independence to travel, explore and meet someone I’m genuinely in love with than to have a boyfriend for the sake of having one. Life’s too short to be miserable in a relationship, don’t ya think?
The thing is, regardless if we want to admit it or not, us solo-ladies probably have a good idea of why we’re still rockin’ (and yes, sometimes hatin’) that single status. Yes, he should have put a ring on it… if only we would have given him more than a date? (And if only he didn’t show up five inches shorter than he said he was? Cough.)
Take it from one of these gals who share the super-honest, raw reasons they haven’t found love (yet!):
Anti Online Dating
“I live in a busy city and it’s so easy to get on Tinder or Hinge or whatever – but I really hate it. I get bored really easily, have a hard time being interested in conversation, and less of an interest in actually meeting some stranger when I could be meeting my friends instead.” –Valerie, 23, Chicago
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