The Real Reason You’re Still Single

When I can’t fall asleep or post-savasana in yoga class when my mind is supposed to be clear, I start to wrestle with negative thoughts. Most of the time I can ward them off, but there’s one that plagues me more than any other (possibly because it’s a big fear of mine):

Why the hell am I still single?

I could list all of the things that are great about me and what I could bring to a relationship, but while those things are true, it’s also true that I’m pretty damn picky. And that I like the little life and routine I’ve built for myself. And that I keep dating in the same way (online, at the bars) and expecting different results. And well, I don’t date as much as I know I should be (isn’t once a week enough?!).

And possibly the biggest one of all – I refuse to waste time in a just-for-now relationship. I’d much rather be single, have freedom and independence to travel, explore and meet someone I’m genuinely in love with than to have a boyfriend for the sake of having one. Life’s too short to be miserable in a relationship, don’t ya think?

The thing is, regardless if we want to admit it or not, us solo-ladies probably have a good idea of why we’re still rockin’ (and yes, sometimes hatin’) that single status. Yes, he should have put a ring on it… if only we would have given him more than a date? (And if only he didn’t show up five inches shorter than he said he was? Cough.)

Take it from one of these gals who share the super-honest, raw reasons they haven’t found love (yet!):

Anti Online Dating
“I live in a busy city and it’s so easy to get on Tinder or Hinge or whatever – but I really hate it. I get bored really easily, have a hard time being interested in conversation, and less of an interest in actually meeting some stranger when I could be meeting my friends instead.” –Valerie, 23, Chicago

This post was originally published in YourTango. Read the rest here.


One thought on “The Real Reason You’re Still Single

  1. Well for a Good man like me that really wanted to get married and have a family which i can certainly Blame the women of today since so many women that now have their Careers are so very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky, and so very money hungry too. And God forbid if they should ever go with a man that makes much Less money than they do which i been told already which makes it very sad that Most of the women of today really want the Best and will Never settle for Less. Quite a Change in the women of today from years ago which i really could see why i am still Single and Not by choice. And other friends that i know are having the same problem too which it was just too bad for many of us Good men out there that we weren’t born at a much Earlier time which it would’ve made a complete difference in our life when the Good old fashioned women were around since many of us would’ve been all settled down by now with our own Good wife and family that many of us still Don’t have today.

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