When it comes to meeting my husband one day, I’m a little worried. Not because I’m afraid it won’t happen (okay, that’s a complete lie, but moving on) but because I’ve been single for a while. And though this solo stint has taught me at ton about my values and desires, it’s also has given me time to think about thethings I absolutely need in a partner.
Some are a little unrealistic, some are must-haves and others will probably pop up along the way, but in no particular order, here are the things that I’ll need from my future husband.
I need you …
1. To say – and write – loving things to me a lot.
I’m absolutely in love with words. And especially loving words. Even if it’s as simple as “I love you” on a Post-It by the Keurig once a week, do it. I’ll also settle for a text message (or 20), too.
2. To ask my dad for my hand in marriage.
And my mom, too, while you’re at it. I know it’s old-fashioned, creepy and a bit anti-feminist, but you know what? I don’t care. I’m convinced he’ll say ‘yes’ and though you might have to fly to North Carolina (please don’t Skype, it’s tacky) to ask, just think: My dad will totally make you a steak and pop you a beer while you’re there!
3. To be adept at balancing our incomes.
Though I’m pretty financially secure, I worry about having enough money more than anything else. I save more than the average mid-20s-something, but I have this irrational fear about it all disappearing. (Maybe because my NYC rent cost nearly double what most mortgages do?) I need you to be grounded on the topic and calm me down when I freak out.
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Not gonna lie, I haven’t even seen a picture of you and I don’t really care. You sound like what my example of a perfect lady would be. That being said, I’m in NC, but probably nowhere near your dad so odds are I will never meet you. The main reason I was commenting was just to say that, yes there are guys out there that would love to do each of these for a lady, and that I hope you find someone who does them all. A person who knows what they want in a partner is a person who will get what they want, so best of luck! He will come around sooner or later.
Hi, I’ve just read the list and I LoVe it. I’m an only child too. Thanks for coming up withis, I will save this. I’m 34 still single thought I’d met the one but no. Good luck.
I almost never reply to anything online, but something about this piece really resonated.
Like Lad89, if I were to simply judge someone on the traits they wanted from a potential suitor, you would top many a list.
I guess the only thing I have to contribute, or ask, is, how many of these traits actually “make it” for you, rather than, the lack of how many of these traits “break it” for you. Upon multiple read-throughs of “He’s Just Not That Into You,” at first, as a male, I was utterly offended by the book because guys who are like that don’t just get girls left and right, how dare the authors pen a book so seated in a reality that didn’t exist. Upon re-reading, I realized they weren’t saying “this is what you should look for,” they were saying “this is when you should run for the hills.”
Either way, I wish you luck in love, heck maybe our paths will cross someday.
-Lonely in Las Vegas
I almost never reply to anything online, but something about this piece really resonated.
Like Lad89, if I were to simply judge someone on the traits they wanted from a potential suitor, you would top many a list.
I guess the only thing I have to contribute, or ask, is, how many of these traits actually “make it” for you, rather than, the lack of how many of these traits “break it” for you. Upon multiple read-throughs of “He’s Just Not That Into You,” at first, as a male, I was utterly offended by the book because guys who are like that don’t just get girls left and right, how dare the authors pen a book so seated in a reality that didn’t exist. Upon re-reading, I realized they weren’t saying “this is what you should look for,” they were saying “this is when you should run for the hills.”
Either way, I wish you luck in love, heck maybe our paths will cross someday.
-Lonely in Las Vegas
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